How point of view changes from teens to your twenties!!

 Alot changes within us over time… The same happened to me too. There were certain things I used to believe firmly as a girl in her teens and on the same things my views are different as a grown up lady…

I looked down upon people who used to smoke or drink or party every weekend. I felt they were losers and craved for external validation and socialization. But now I know it is not what you do, but who you are underneath, that defines you.

I used to do things that made me look cool without truly understanding why had I been doing that… now I know that people do not remember you for how cool you were but how compassionate, empathetic & authentic you have been.

I felt the lack of money was the root cause of all my family problems. And once we have money, we no longer will have any problems. But now I feel that our problems are the stories we tell ourselves, of how everything will be fine once we get what we want.

I felt that rich kids will never make it in life, because they got everything on a platter and do not know how to struggle. Their privilege will always harm them. Now I know that it is not privilege that harms us. It is our lack of awareness of our own privilege that harms us.

I really tried hard to please people. I wanted them to like me, to think highly of me, to speak highly of me. Now I know that if my happiness depends on external validation, then my happiness depends on something I do not control. And no matter how hard you try everyone will never like you so the best gamble to play is being our own true self!

I need to have a plan. A plan is the only way you get to any point in life. If you do not have a plan, you do not have any chance of getting to anywhere. Now I feel to not have a plan and be ok with it, is the best plan.

I assumed my work will speak for myself. If I do well, people will give me the credit I deserved, what I wanted and what I deserved! I never asked! But now I have known that if you don't ask, the answer is always no.

I thought that you need to have an opinion on everything and people having other opinions are wrong or they will prove me wrong… what I now believe is that there is no such thing in life as right or wrong… everyone believes and does things as per their circumstances and the story from the point of view you heard… and it’s ok to not have an opinion about everything !!

I don't know whether my old self will be proud of or even accept the opinions or views I now have... but I feel this change was quite needed in me.. and I feel quite a few times this happens in your life when all your beliefs change completely... and this is needed for your own spiritual and mental growth! To question and change all that you believe in!! Because by questioning them only you truly know what you are seeking!! Change in Beliefs determine our dialogue with our spirit minds!! Change in Beliefs determine the breadth and depth of

Our existence